How to Talk About Incontinence
Breaking the Taboo and Finding Support
Incontinence is way more common than you might think, yet it remains one of the most difficult health topics to talk about. Just last week I had a lady contact me after watching one of my tiktok LIVES saying that she had started leaking urine at the age of 48 and was really embarrassed about it. It was impacting her quality of life as she felt unable to go running in case she pee'd herself.
Whether it’s a little leak when you laugh or a more persistent issue such as fecal incontinence, so many people feel awkward or ashamed to bring it up.
It’s time to change that. Talking about incontinence openly not only reduces the stigma but also opens the door to finding support and solutions.
Why Is Incontinence Still a Taboo?
For lots of people, incontinence and overactive bladder is associated with a loss of control or aging, which can feel deeply personal and sometimes even shameful. But here’s the truth: incontinence can affect anyone—young or old, new mums suffering pelvic organ prolapse after giving birth, athletes, or those going through menopause.
It’s just a health issue like any other, and it’s nothing to be embarrassed about.
Starting a Conversation about Incontinence
Talking about incontinence doesn’t have to be awkward or uncomfortable. It's a much more common condition than you think! Here are some tips to make the conversation easier:
- Start Small: Begin by talking to someone you trust, like a close friend or family member. Simply saying, “I’ve been dealing with some bladder issues lately,” can open the door and you may well find if discussing with a friend that they are in the same boat!
- Bring It Up with Your GP or another Healthcare professional: Doctors and nurses are trained to handle sensitive health conditions, and discussing incontinence and bladder control with them can lead to effective treatment options. Prepare ahead by jotting down your symptoms and any questions you have.
- Normalise the Topic: Mentioning incontinence casually in the context of health and wellness can help reduce its stigma. For example, “I read about pelvic floor exercises for stress & urinary incontinence and thought I might try them out.”
- Use Humour: Sometimes a little humour can lighten the mood. Saying something like, “Don't make me laugh, I may pee myself” can make the topic feel less intimidating.
Finding Support for Incontinence
One of the best ways to feel less alone is by connecting with others who understand what you’re going through. That’s where the Secret Whispers community comes in. Our group is full of women who are having exactly the same challenges and are there to offer advice, share stories, and celebrate wins together.
'I purchased this product a few months ago after researching how I could help myself without having to try and resort to drugs.
The initial support that I received when buying the product was absolutely fantastic.
I used the kegal balls for a couple of weeks as described and I could quickly tell they were definitely making a difference. Stupidly life got in way and I stopped using them and stopped the exercises and my pelvic floor muscles soon reverted and my incontinence returned as bad as ever. So when Secret Whispers offered a 30 day challenge course I decided to pay my money and try it.
Is all I can say is WOW. The course is now on day 18 and I have gone from using 3 small or 1 large pad a day to nothing (yes really).
So the moral is - buy the kegals, make sure you use them and if a course is offered definitely go for it.' Product Review
How Kegel Weights Can Help Pelvic Floor
At Secret Whispers, we believe that pelvic floor health should be an open conversation. Physical therapists recommend doing kegel exercises using kegel weights as they are designed to make it easier to strengthen your pelvic floor. Here’s how we can support you:
- Practical Solutions: Our Kegel Weights are easy to use and effective with a 6 step toning programme, increasing weights gradually over a 90 day period. This helps you regain control and confidence of your bladder and bowels as they make it easier to exercise correctly.
- Education: Our blog is full of useful info to help you understand your pelvic floor health and take charge of it.
- Community: Join our supportive community of women who are breaking the taboo around incontinence and pelvic health.
Let’s Break the Taboo Together
The more we talk about incontinence, the more we normalize it. And the more we normalize it, the easier it becomes for everyone to seek support and solutions. By opening up, you’re not just helping yourself—you’re helping others feel less alone too.
If you’re ready to take the first step, explore the Secret Whispers range and join our community. Together, we can break the stigma and take back control, one conversation at a time.
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About the Author: Secret Whispers was founded by Julie Colan, a passionate mum and health advocate who saw the need for effective pelvic floor solutions. Now, Helen Rankin, the founder of Cheeky Wipes and Cheeky Pants—known for her award-winning work in sustainable product development—has taken the helm at Secret Whispers. Helen is committed to advancing the company’s mission, believing that women shouldn’t have to accept incontinence as a given. With the innovative Secret Whispers Kegel weights, she aims to offer every woman an effective, reusable solution for pelvic floor health. Try them and take control of your wellness journey today!
